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Moving, Weddings, And a Cat’s Stupid Adventure

I’m long overdue for a post. The reason I’ve been away for so long is because….

Grizz and I bought a house! It finally happened. We waited a long time to get this house, but we’re finally in.
We’ve been busy getting things in order and it’s coming along. I have things I want to blog about, and I’m really excited because I have a studio now, so I’ll have room to shoot photos for things. It’s my goal now that I have the extra shooting space to plan more Outfit of the Day things. I even may do the holiday look book again, although I may try and do it a little differently. The wig collection is something I’m finally going to be able to get started on.

We were also busy with his sister’s wedding. Which was incredibly cool to be a part of it. It even ended up making the news! They got married on a moving “L” train in Chicago. It caught fire with the news, the even went on live TV!
Here’s one of the articles and the interview with Windy City Live is at the bottom of it.

I’m like, hey, I know them! ^_^

We threw a couple of parties here already, which is so exciting now that we have the room for it. Grizz’s birthday is coming up and we’ve been having an unseasonably warm fall, so we’re having another party that hopefully we’ll get to have a fire. 🙂

We have a few things we’re not used to having to do all the time, like double checking our doors. Last night our back door was not only unlocked, but as Grizz discovered when he got up for work this morning, it wasn’t even latched. The door was wide open for who knows how long. My first instinct was to jump up and look for Demon, our cat, who’s been obsessed with trying to sneak out whenever the door is open. As I expected, he was nowhere to be found. Grizz was already looking outside for him. I went down the block but didn’t see him. I was so heartbroken, and I remember shutting off the lights in the kitchen but I didn’t check the door so naturally I was blaming myself. And I was so worried about him. He’s so dark so he’d be hard for people driving in cars to see…
As we were admitting defeat and heading inside, something told me to ask Grizz to shine his flashlight under the deck. When he did, there was a set of glowing eyes looking at us. Luckily for us, he’s very food driven. So opening his can of cat food was all we needed to do to coax him out.

Stupid cat. Scared the shit out of me. I’m really glad that he didn’t get that far. I suppose if anything this whole experience will make me obsessed with checking to make sure the doors are locked.
I don’t even like cats… how did this little jerk claw his way into my heart?  It’s also been a small challenge trying to get him to get along with our dog, Eva. She’s used to cats because she’s lived with them almost her whole life. So she really doesn’t care at all about Demon. Like, she’s far to busy begging people to throw her ball and climbing into everyone’s lap even though she is far too big to be a lap dog. Demon, however, has never seen a dog. So, he took a bit longer to adjust. He’s still not a huge fan of her, but they coexist. And they’ll both snuggle me, so that’s all I wanted out of the whole arrangement.


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So that’s what’s been going on lately.

I want to get back on track blogging-wise so I’m trying to plan simple things I can do for right now.
I think the next thing I do will be a makeup thing. I ordered an eyeshadow palette that was a collaboration with Morphe and KathleenLights on YouTube. I’ve been wanting to buy a YouTube collab, but this was the first one that was affordable so I went for it. It should be here Friday so I think I’m going to do a first impression or something like that over the weekend.  I literally just found out (like, I’m watching her October favorites right now and she JUST said) it’s sold out already. It released a week ago and it’s limited edition and it’s already gone. I’m glad I got it right away. It’s kind of the reason I want to do a lookbook again because I’m already thinking of cute holiday makeup looks.

Anyway, I think that’s it for me. I’ll talk again soon. 🙂
Hopefully everyone had a safe and fun Halloween!

What did you dress up as?

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Life Update, Blog Agenda

I think every once in awhile, I just need to do one of these so ya’ll know I’m alive. I know I just spewed out a post a few days ago, and I do have a few more in the works. So I’ll talk a little bit about the plan there. I feel like every so often I just wanna talk about what’s new with me. I try not to do these too often, as my old blog was over-filled with crap like that.

Work’s been keeping me as busy as a bee since summer, which is fantastic. I completed my first year doing underclass photography and other things like sports, dances, commencements, and communions which meant I could finally move on to senior photography. I can’t tell you  how much I’ve learned in a month’s span – it’s insane. I learned so much about lighting, posing, settings, and just straight up human interaction. It’s been a blast. Moving on from the factory made, cookie cutter school photography to a full on senior studio session has been a real eye opener and a game changer! I loved my job to start with, but this summer – fall, I’ve felt like a REAL photographer and I couldn’t be happier. While fall was in full swing, my schedule had been pretty hectic so off course I fell off the grid a little. With all that going on, Grizz and I haven’t even done much in the way of wedding planning. We’ve got some time since we’re shooting for June 2017, but still we’ve gotta get a move on with that.

But all the while, I’d have ideas for blogs buzzing in my brain. Anytime I came up with an idea I saved a draft of it so I would remember what it was.

Now I have a few things queued up for when our winter break comes into play.

I’ve been meaning to do another CD review since I got the latest from Breaking Benjamin, I’ve talked a little bit about doing a photo tour of my desk and possibly my dresser. I don’t know if people would be more interested in a room tour or apartment tour altogether, but I think I could do that instead. I haven’t really decided there, because we’d have to do some cleaning. Maybe at least a room tour? I don’t know.

Then there was  the time Grizz and I made coasters using yard sale floppy disks and little rubber feet. That’s pretty much all there is to it, but I figured I’d share some photos.
Then, I really want to do a wig collection post, but I figured I’d do that after Christmas, in case I get any more wigs as a gift.

Also, awhile back I talked about a D&D inspired photo project. I still really want to do that but I think it’s gonna take a lot of work and I probably won’t do anything with it until Spring since I need some good weather. Maybe a couple of them could be done in the winter. At any rate, that process is going to take a while.

On another note, Grizz has been wanting to make a cooking channel on YouTube, so I think we’re going to work on that as well. And of course I’ll be posting them up on here.

On top of all that, we’re gonna be moving. Our lease is up at the end of January, and we decided that it’s time to move out on our own now that we’re engaged. We really want to have our own place and our own life, so we’ll be looking hard core pretty soon.

So that’s pretty much what’s going on and that’s the plan for future posts. I’ll have a little bit of downtime to work on a few projects, and that’s what I’ll do.

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Where Have I Been?

I know I’ve disappeared again. These last few weeks have been super chaotic! If you’ve been following my Instagram or Twitter you already know a little bit about things that are going on. But I’ll fill you in because it’s a lot of craziness and adulting and goals and just… yeah.

To start, a few weeks back Katie and I filmed a YouTube cooking video, which was a lot of fun. I wanted to be able to edit it right away but I had to spend a LOT of time going back and forth to my office because the camera and computer I use for work decided to disagree with each other. Lots of technical issues- it was super frustrating. Then I was sick. I got lucky because work slowed down a bit so I ended up being able to stay home and rest a lot. MEANWHILE James and I had been looking into financing a new car for me to drive to work. Since I do tons of driving all over the Chicagoland area, we felt it would be a good idea to get a nice reliable car that I could feel safe driving. We bought a 2010 Mercury Mariner and traded in my old Explorer.
The day after we brought it home it wouldn’t start. It was super frustrating to have to put money into a car we just bought but I ended up buying a battery for it. The day after that, it wouldn’t start again. I had to call off work and get it looked at. After some poking around, James found out it was just a fuse – to our relief.

Work has picked back up as well. Then on top of that, I help my sister in law photograph a wedding. That was a lot of fun and really cool to learn how to do. But between photographing directly after a school job and then spending most of the following Sunday editing – it was exhausting as well.  It was worth it though, I’m glad we got to be a part of it.

And more recently, James and I decided to actually set some fitness goals and we’re really going to try to stick to them. So, we’ve been trying to figure out when we can squeeze in going to the gym with our busy schedules.

I’ve been meaning to write a post for awhile too. I have an idea for it, anyway. But with everything, I kind of felt like I needed to update  instead.

So, I’m alive and all that. Keep an eye out for a couple different posts in the future. And once I get Katie’s video edited I’ll be posting that here as well.

Thanks for hanging in there with me, if you are.

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Adulting For The Bad-At-Life

I have consistently found myself envying the people who seem like they have it all figured out, you know, people who just seem so put-together. I’ve never been very good at being an independent, grown-up, well  put-together person. Anxiety has always had a lot to do with that, along with a lack of a desire to things for myself. I’m slowly getting better at it, but it’s taken me this long to figure life out. I wanted to talk a little  bit about what I’ve learned about adulting thus far. I’m not trying to speak as though I know everything there is to know, this is just what I’ve observed and decided to apply to my own life.

One thing I’ve learned, is to not be intimidated by the “put-together” people I mentioned earlier. Why? Because they don’t exist. Everyone is working on themselves. Everyone is struggling with something. Someone who is super successful with their career might be struggling to keep friendships or relationships. Someone with the family they’ve always dreamed of may have trouble with managing money. Everyone has something. The quicker you realize this, the sooner you will start to feel more confident in yourself. The confidence won’t happen overnight, but starting to believe in yourself more is a great step.

Something else I’ve learned, especially over the past couple years, is it’s NOT to late to start a new career path. I always thought I was stuck. I worked a crappy fast food job, barely finishing a certificate in a career that I was slowly realizing with every passing semester just was not for me.  When my dad started going back to school with an interest with internet security, I’ll be honest, I didn’t think he would stick with it. But he did it. He finished school with flying colors and got a decent job in IT. If my dad could go back to school at his age and completely start a new career, then so could I! I had a passion for photography, far more than anything I’ve ever felt about web design and that’s what I wanted to do with my life. It isn’t too late to go after your goals, if that’s what you truly want.

True passion is a trump card. When it’s something you want, nothing can stop you. If you feel like you’re not a strong interviewer, you’re on the wrong interviews. It’s REALLY hard to feign an interest in a job. “Why do you want to work for (insert generic retailer here)?”
“Um… well, I’ve always had a passion for paying my rent.”
When I interviewed for Lifetouch, it was the easiest interview I’ve ever had. And I am such an awkward fetus on interviews, visibly nervous, rambly, shaky, etc. But talking about how much I love to take photographs, and how I really saw this job as a stepping stone for my future… it just came so natural to me.  Anxiety, you got nothing. Because I want this.

The last thing is something I learned from my friend Tiffany, who found it in this book she was reading. I’ve started reading it as well, I’ll post a link at the end. It almost seems so obvious, one of those “why didn’t I think of that” moments.
In order to reach your life goal, start by setting smaller goals AND a deadline. If you can’t make that deadline, it’s too large of a goal so you need to set a smaller goal.
I applied this right away.  I started my list of goals and so far I’ve already checked some of them off. If people are interested, I’ll post them at a later date, and make them sticky so you can see as I check them off. I’m attempting to also make it a goal to post more on this blog, but I’m not sure how to give myself a deadline with that.

But that’s it. Those are the ways in which I’ve started becoming better at adulting. I encourage you to do the same. Or not. But find something that works for you.

If I can do it, so can you.

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Settling In

So, I know I haven’t been able to post in awhile. A few weeks actually. I feel like all I’ve done since I moved is run around like a crazy person getting stuff together for the apartment. Even my downtime is spent doing dishes/laundry or what have you. Then any little time I have for myself I don’t want to spend blogging.

But I’m free now. Not in the greatest possible mood in the world, but I’m free now.  I don’t really know where I placed all the ideas I had in my brain for a post, so I’m just gonna talk about the new place a little. It’s pretty decent for an apartment. I love the area. If  you name a store or restaurant, I’m willing to bet I’m within 2 miles of it. Which includes my work.  It is pretty nice living so close to work. But I don’t like that I lose out on my music time.
The kitchen is sizable especially if you consider that most 2 bedrooms really skimp on the kitchen size. I think I was multiplying the size of all my things by like 10 though. Because I was super worried James and I wouldn’t be able to fit all our things. I was like “oh my dresser is going to take up that whole wall. There’s not going to be room for anything else.”
But everything fits just fine, with walking room still. That includes: our bed, my nightstand, his desk, my corner desk, my dresser with a vanity, and his dresser. His dresser lives in the closet but there’s room for everything. We’re both a bit messy and both want to try and keep a clean room so we’re really trying to not put our clothes all over the floor and stuff.

I had been feeling really homesick for awhile. As much as my family drives me nuts, I do love them and miss them. And holy crap do I miss my little baby. But I’m starting to get used to it. I don’t spend a lot of time alone anyway. James is usually home around the time I get home from work. My roommate, Tara, is out a lot but she’s around sometimes too. But I do have at least one day off in the middle of the week and normally I spend it by myself.  And I’m getting used to being by myself. (I really hate being alone)

So that’s it. I like my new apartment a lot, and really moving out was the best thing for me. I keep in touch with my parents and my sister. And I visit my little baby when I can. I even photographed a little! This is Tara’s cat, Wickett.


He has majestic lion fur.

So, if there’s anything that you all would like to see postwise let me know. Because I have no idea what to post. Possibly some recipes? I don’t know. Oh well, I’ll think of something.

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We Got Approved! And Other Stuff.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulder.  We finally got approved for an apartment!  We can move in less than a month! It’s just nice to have one less thing to worry about. Now I just have to start packing. And I’m really hoping James and I can fit all our stuff in our one room. (It’s the one I talked about in my last update about this)

So, if anyone is interested I’ll do a tour photoblog but it’s not super exciting. It’s really not fancy, it’s just a regular ol’ two bedroom apartment.  But it is the first time I’m leaving my parents’ home, so it’s exciting to me.

I just wanted to pop on here and share my exciting news! Yay!

And I have a few things coming up.

Next weekend I’ll be seeing Rocky Horror Picture Show for the first time ever! And I have an awesome outfit planned for that I’ll be sharing. I even bought a wig. So I might talk a bit about that if it works out well.

And tomorrow I’ll be shopping with Tiffany.  I’m kind of doing a “last hurrah” sort of shopping spree. Once I move out I’m going to save, save, save as much as I possibly can. So I’m allowing myself to splurge a little bit tomorrow on things for my pastel/boho goth style.  I think I’m going to concentrate a bit on tops and accessories. I’ll possibly do a haul photoblog on what I end up buying if that’s something people are interested in.

Also, I know I did a Fall Playlist post, so I think I want to do a winter one as well.

And lastly,  I’ve been collecting random other blog articles that I find interesting so I will be putting together a post with links to those.  I’ll probably do that within the next few days.

So those are the things I’ll be talking about over the next few weeks. Plus once roller derby starts up again, I’ll have more photography to post.

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